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Recalling Jenny’s Words of Encouragement
“I’ve seen some of the financial writings you post on Facebook, Anwar, and I don’t like them!” I described the scathing words of an acquaintance I’ll anonymously call Jenny in my previous piece addressing whether wealth building is supposed to be boring. Jenny was a lawyer who I had known for years. We weren’t what I would consider close personally, but her words surprised me and were worth capturing.
I knew Jenny well enough to know why my financial writings caused her angst. At the time, my writings encouraged smart money management and planning, and some would consider it all frugal. Frugal is a word often confused with being cheap. I wrote a piece about misconceptions surrounding frugality and am linking it here. Jenny’s words inspired this piece, in addition to those of my mentor.
My Mentor’s Words After a Recent Discussion
“You should get to a point where you feel joy watching your investments grow. Saving for the sake of saving is just suffering after a while.” My anonymous mentor shared these words towards the end of one of our financial discussions. We discussed my retirement account, which was on track, and also a discretionary stock portfolio that he and his son helped me build.
By the way, if you don’t have mastery of the stock market and the time to watch the gazillion companies/positions you can buy, it’s best to leverage the knowledge and wisdom of an expert. I don’t have the expertise or time to do it myself, but I have benefited from the expertise of others.
Spending, Needs, and Wants
“You should get to a point where you feel joy watching your investments grow. Saving for the sake of saving is just suffering after a while.” My mentor’s words were powerful. There should be some enjoyment after diligently saving, controlling credit card debt, and making financial investments. This is obvious for savvy investors. However, for a person not used to spending, there is a bit of a paradigm shift there.
Does it sound strange that a person is not used to spending? It should not because some people don’t have lofty and vast wants. I’ve often pondered that some people from humble beginnings retain the thought patterns that they grew up with. Others move entirely in the other direction and spend to their heart’s content, sometimes uncontrollably. One of the key lessons in money management is knowing the difference between needs and wants. Many people today don’t know the difference between the two, nor how to defer gratification. If you are wise with your finances, you should eventually find some enjoyment, and it shouldn’t be just suffering.
What’s Next? What’s Enjoyment for You?
So what do you do after you’ve saved up a sizable emergency fund, stock portfolio, and retirement savings, which are also clicking on all cylinders? Do you go sailing around the world? Do you buy a new car? Do you start frequenting five-star restaurants? Do you start a family if you haven’t yet started one? The answer is different for everyone. I would say to be mindful of what got you there first and not depart entirely from it, especially if it wasn’t handed to you and you built it yourself from nothing.
The latter point is significant because it suggests that money management is essential. Some people are handed inheritances and never have to build anything. Some people inherit wealth and squander it. Others likewise have to make everything themselves. Management is likewise a critical component if you are building wealth yourself or if it was given to you and you need to maintain it. The take-home message is to experience some enjoyment once you’ve practiced being wise with your financial resources.
Can You Afford a $400 Expense?
“I don’t know where Anwar will go on his dollar budget!” Jenny took another verbal jab at me during an impromptu lunch years after declaring that she disapproved of my financial writings. I was surprised but not surprised when she said what she said. I didn’t get angry. Instead, I was amused.
In hindsight, financial and investment plans are like college and professional football offenses. Some offenses are designed to score points quickly in flashy ways. It looks impressive, though this strategy has disadvantages for the entire team. Other offenses are designed to methodically work the ball down the field while grinding down the clock. They’re not as flashy as the former, but they have many advantages for the offense and defense of a particular team.
My offense was the latter, designed to put various safety measures in place before indulging myself a little bit more. An important article was published in the Washington Post years ago. It was entitled, The Shocking Number of Americans Who Can’t Afford a $400 Expense. The article highlighted a bar chart breaking down various ethnic groups by income bracket. Surprisingly, roughly 20% of people making six figures or more couldn’t afford a $400 expense. That doesn’t make sense. I’ll leave you with a question. How do you, the reader, explain such a phenomenon?
Closing Thoughts
“You want to reach a point where you should enjoy watching your investments grow. Saving for the sake of saving is just suffering after a while.” I’m closing this piece with my financial team’s profound words. They are similar to Dave Ramsey’s famous slogan, “We’re going to live like no one else so that we later can live like no one else!”
I think this is a valuable message for multiple groups. For the financially responsible persons out there, know that at some point you should be able to enjoy yourself a little bit more, but again, don’t forget what got you to where you are, as you can easily slide back to where you came from. For those looking suspiciously at people who are frugal and not reckless with their finances, think about whether those people are building and trying to go somewhere in particular. Also, look at yourselves. Are you financing your lifestyle using credit cards and revolving balances? Also, will you have money for your later years?
I wanted to make these latter points and highlight those from my acquaintance Jenny’s scathing choice words for a specific reason. I have a hunch that others like her judged me over the years over my careful spending and lack of consumption. To dig myself out of a massive debt hole, I went without a car starting in 2012 up through the beginning of the Covid-19 pandemic. In addition to being encouraged to be hyper-consumers, many people don’t have a long-term perspective or the ability to ask where a person is going and what they are building toward. All that matters is the here and now. Thank you for reading this. Please leave any comments or thoughts below.
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