Why Your Pre-Teen is Anxious About Moving

My blog focuses on Health/Wellness, Home/Living and Home/Property Discussions. Housing moves can be tough, especially for young people. Pre-teens may initially be averse to moving. The following contributed post is entitled, Why Your Pre-Teen is Anxious About Moving.

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Moving to a new house is a huge transition for any family, but for a preteen it can feel especially overwhelming. They’re already at a precarious age where identity, friendships and routine are more important than ever before, so a move can trigger a range of emotional responses, especially anxiety.

One of the biggest concerns for preteens during a move is the uncertainty around schools. Whether they’re transferring to a new middle school or starting a fresh academic year in a whole new district, school represents far more than just academics for a preteen. It’s their social world, a source of stability, and a place where they’re learning who they are along the way. Disrupting that environment can understandably ’cause some upset.

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1. Worrying about a loss of friendship. A preteen’s social circle is their staple for their identity. At this age, friendships often feel like the center of a preteen’s universe, and a move can mean leaving behind best friends, familiar lunch tables, and well established social circles. There’s always promises made that they’ll still meet up, but that doesn’t always happen in practice. Many preteens also worry how they’ll stay in touch with old friends while trying to make new friends with different rules, expectations and clicks. And that can be incredibly intimidating.

2. It’s the fear of the unknown. They may be anxious about moving because this is an unknown neighborhood in a new location and it upends their sense of control. Different daily routines and unfamiliar surroundings can leave them feeling disoriented. And a new school might mean different academic standards or teaching styles or extracurricular activities, all of which require strong adaptations. Even the little things like not knowing the layout of the school or where to sit on the bus can cue feelings of self doubt.

3. Academic pressures. A change in school can sometimes mean a change in academic expectations. Your child may be worried about whether they’ll be able to keep up with coursework or understand new teaching styles. If your preteen has already experienced academic struggles, a new school may heighten their concern. They might wonder if the move will worsen the situation or if they’ll receive the support they need.

4. A lack of involvement in the decision. When you decide to move to a new place, your preteen doesn’t often get a say in it. This is a lack of control for them because they want to be involved with the decision making. And even when moves are decided entirely by adults, children may feel powerless or overlooked. That lack of control can quickly morph into anxiety. You can ease this by involving them in the process, such as visiting the new school or a new house, and helping to choose their bedroom setup.

5. Emotional development worries. Preteens are in a complex stage of their emotional growth. They are not children, but they’re not quite yet teenagers and their ability to process and express their emotions is still developing. They won’t always verbalise their fears, but instead show them through mood swings, lashing out or withdrawal.

    Understanding the emotional impact of moving is important if you want to make sure that this move goes smoothly.

    Author: anwaryusef

    Anwar Y. Dunbar is a Regulatory Scientist. Being a naturally curious person, he is also a student of all things. He earned his Ph.D. in Pharmacology from the University of Michigan and his Bachelor’s Degree in General Biology from Johnson C. Smith University (JCSU). Prior to starting the Big Words Blog Site, Anwar published and contributed to numerous research articles in competitive scientific journals reporting on his research from graduate school and postdoctoral years. After falling in love with writing, he contributed to the now defunct Examiner.com, and the Edvocate where he regularly wrote about: Education-related stories/topics, Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (STEM), Financial Literacy; as well as conducted interviews with notable individuals such as actor and author Hill Harper. Having many influences, one of his most notable heroes is author, intellectual and speaker, Malcolm Gladwell, author of books including Outliers and David and Goliath. Anwar has his hands in many, many activities. In addition to writing, Anwar actively mentors youth, works to spread awareness of STEM careers, serves on the Board of Directors of the Friends of the David M. Brown Arlington Planetarium, serves as Treasurer for the JCSU Washington, DC Alumni Chapter, and is active in the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace Ministry at the Alfred Street Baptist Church. He also tutors in the subjects of biology, chemistry and physics. Along with his multi-talented older brother Amahl Dunbar (designer of the Big Words logos, inventor and a plethora of other things), Anwar is a “Fanboy” and really enjoys Science-Fiction and Superhero movies including but not restricted to Captain America Civil War, Batman vs. Superman: Dawn of Justice, and Prometheus. He is a proud native of Buffalo, NY.

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